The secret of forgiveness – Part 1

With Rosh Hashana around the corner, I thought I’d treat you (and myself…) to a series of posts over the next couple of weeks, exploring the secret of forgiveness, and then the secret of teshuva – because as you’ll discover, we can’t really have one without the other.

Today, we’re going to kick-off the discussion by exploring:

Why is it so incredibly difficult to say sorry?

Before you read on, you might want to take a minute or two and think about what’s stopping you from making that much-needed apology to the person or people in your own life. When I started pondering this, the following things popped-up in my head as possible reasons why it’s so hard to ask for forgiveness sometimes:

Maybe it’s so hard to ask for forgiveness because it’s:

  • Embarrassing
  • Demeaning
  • Unpleasant
  • Makes us feel like we want to throw up
  • We actually don’t feel like we did anything wrong
  • We’re still far too upset at the other person to say sorry
  • Let THEM come to ME and say ‘sorry’ first!!
  • Going to cause me to lose my power or influence in some way – they won’t respect me anymore
  • Going to make me feel even more terrible about myself, if I actually admit to doing something wrong
  • Too painful

Anything else? Did I miss anything out? If yes, please fill in the blank in the comments section, and we’ll come back to this when we continue our discussion in the next post.

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