The secret of forgiveness – Part 1
With Rosh Hashana around the corner, I thought I’d treat you (and myself…) to a series of posts over the next couple of weeks, exploring the secret of forgiveness, and then the secret of teshuva – because as you’ll discover, we can’t really have one without the other.
Today, we’re going to kick-off the discussion by exploring:
Why is it so incredibly difficult to say sorry?
Before you read on, you might want to take a minute or two and think about what’s stopping you from making that much-needed apology to the person or people in your own life. When I started pondering this, the following things popped-up in my head as possible reasons why it’s so hard to ask for forgiveness sometimes:
Maybe it’s so hard to ask for forgiveness because it’s:
- Makes us feel like we want to throw up
- We actually don’t feel like we did anything wrong
- We’re still far too upset at the other person to say sorry
- Let THEM come to ME and say ‘sorry’ first!!
- Going to cause me to lose my power or influence in some way – they won’t respect me anymore
- Going to make me feel even more terrible about myself, if I actually admit to doing something wrong
- Too painful
Anything else? Did I miss anything out? If yes, please fill in the blank in the comments section, and we’ll come back to this when we continue our discussion in the next post.